O Success who art thou?

Its been a long time since a read something other than news articles or product specs. And it turned out to be the biography of Billy Graham, one of the only three people on my admiration list(Gandhi and Mother Teresa being the other) which off course doesn’t include my idol. The character study of these three, shows the distinct yet similar goals they shared, the uplifting of people from being mere mortals to something better.

I have always wondered about the kind of motivation that turned ordinary men(women) to do extraordinary things. Hindsight has always been good … but that does not provide for the strength that is needed to overcome seemingly insurmountable troubles! Would Gandhi have known that he would be called the father of the nation and inspire not just one nation to attain freedom? Would he have thought that when he decided to use peace instead of violence as a weapon, the sun would set on the British empire ? Its hard to imagine that kind of faith in oneself.

One of the qualities that made this group successful was their humility. Inspite of their stature in the world they always remained down to earth. Which brings me to the question of what is success … success to me personally is not the amount of money you have or weather you have reached the pinnacle of your field of vocation. Success is affecting people’s life … I measure it in the lives that are affected by us. I guess it was obivious from my choices!!

None of these individuals are perfect, each had his one personal faults but that is what made them human enough like everyone of us. Making it plain that they had to overcome not only their own personal faults like everyone of us but also little bit to make the world a better place. I don’t want to sound too sweet with all this assertion but the fact that such frail and weak people could affect so many people for the better is indeed a miracle.

I these times of instant celebrities and 15 minute fame, they stand out as the true celebrities.

They were people who created equality where there was a lot of inequality… unlike some that thought violence alone could do it, they were the voice of clarity, ’cause he who lives by the sword dies by the sword and an eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind. Ghandi worked to make the brown man his own master, ’cause he believed (and so do I) that men are not similar but they are equal!

Billy refused to preach to a segregated crowd in the south even when it was the norm, he worked to make to reach people behind the iron curtain. And in the world of made to order televangelists and godmen, he has maintained his dignity by staying true to his calling!

Mother Teresa worked to give dignity to people who didn’t have anybody to stand up for them. They were not just in one country but everywhere … ’cause they were the ones nobody cared about.

Its not often that we have people like these walk among. Though I would not say that or generation is worse than the ones before it … still it would be nice to see more individuals take it upon themselves to be the beacon of hope to the hopeless…

A couple of days ago a friend of mine was debating with me about the importance of the change in the individual for the world to change. He was of the opinion (which seems to be the prevailingly opinion) that his changing does not make a iota of difference in this world. Its that kind of dejectedness that is the root of all problems. I once heard that “there are two kinds of people in the world, those who conform themselves to this world and those who conform the world to themselves and the progress of the world depends on the second type”.

I just hope that I can affect for good atleast a small percentage of the people that these individuals touched.

“Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure.”

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Cooking …


I am a reformed man after my India trip. Before a few of you start snickering … I am only talking about the part of me starting to cook!! Well putting on 10 pounds in a week will make any person start thinking about their heart and arteries. Does anybody realize how hard it is to cook specially good Indian food? You wouldn’t believe the amount of preparation that goes into it. Now I know why men in India look for a bride who can cook. And before the feminist brigade get on my case let me reiterate that I do not discriminate against women who can’t cook, but I do like a lady who can whip it up in the kitchen (hint hint).

Believe it or not it takes more than three rounds of grocery shopping before I have all the ingredients to make sambar (Curry to those who don’t know ‘Indian'(Tamil)). Even then the sheer amount of time and patience it takes to make the simplest side dish is mind boggling. Got to bow down to all the mom’s out there !!! Also to the girl friends that make cookies for their boy friends and their boy friend’s friends!!!

Frankly I ain’t too bad at cooking only that I am too lazy for it. So far have been bad only on two of six times I have cooked. Before I forget a friendly warning to all attempting to cook Indian … disable the smoke alarm. The first time I cooked it went off and I had to ripe it out to stop myself from going crazy. The day the put in a new one, I cooked again but this time I was prepared, so I was able to disconnect it without ripping it apart. So much for the smoke alarm! That reminded me of the story of when couple of fire engine’s showed up to a Indian student’s apartment at FSU because of the smoke coming out of his kitchen!! He was really whipping it up in the kitchen!

Now that my whole blog has spoken about how hard ‘Indian’ cooking and cooking in general is, just wanted to share with you all that my youth group has learned its first Tamil chorus which they are going to be performing this coming Sunday. But believe you me that its harder to teach monolingual people a different language than cooking (Indian cooking included)!

I have been quite irregular with updating this blog this month … blame it all on work. Have been working weekends for the past two weeks and even this week. Though I then do get to spend the next two weekends with friends and family. Florida and California here I come!!!

On the topic of cooking … I thought I would show you guys the real way to drink “tender” coconut water and eat the “tender” coconut, also show you city folks what a coconut tree looks like … So here you go!!!



“Kissing don’t last: cookery do!”

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